The Desire to be Desired
I know I’m not the only one out here who would like to be in a healthy, happy, and fulfilling romantic relationship. I’d prefer someone who is fine, fit, strong, and sexy! Aesthetics aside…. You and I just want someone to sweep us off our feet.
They make you feel like a woman, or feel like a man. (Shout out to the brothers reading this blog!)
They appreciate and adore your uniqueness. They put up with your craziness. They want you, and you know they want you. There is no question about it.
You feel desired. You are desired.
The daydream ends. Back to life, back to reality. You’re on the dating scene, or even in a marriage, and it’s just not what you’re experiencing.
You want the person to be attentive. You want them to make efforts to spend time with you, but that’s not happening. You’re lucky if you get a hello or a happy face emoji text.
I have had SEVERAL conversations with the Lord about the desire to be desired. His response, “Me too.” Wow!
So often we want someone to want us. We feel alone when we don’t have a date, or get the call, but there is Someone who eternally wants you. Matter of fact, He said I love you first. He yearns to be loved by you. He wants to spend time with you. He wants from you what you want from someone else-to be desired.
I get sad when I don’t get the call back, or he doesn’t text me right away. I feel ignored and unimportant. Hmmm….. Do I treat God the same way I feel I am being treated by others? Am I inconsistent in communicating with Him? Well sometimes I pray to Him. Sometimes I seek Him. Some mornings I’m rushing and I don’t acknowledge Him. Yep, I do.
“God knows my heart,” I’d say, but does He have it? Have I given Him my heart? Am I missing the opportunity of experiencing daily life and love with the true Lover of my soul?
He certainly doesn’t need me, but He wants me. He wants me so much that He sent His Son to die for all my sins…. all of them. ALL OF THEM! None of my sins are cute, and if you knew my business you’d be horrified, yet Christ would suffer again just for me so that I might experience freedom in Him. So that I might be saved. Oh, what love!
And the truth is I still ain’t got it all together, yet He still loves me. Craziness and all! Hard hands and all! Acne, ashy ankles, crazy hair, sweaty pits…He loves me. This is the One who deserves all of my attention. He is the One who I should seek. He is the One I should look forward to spending time with. He is the One who will never fail me.
No I’m not saying become a nun or enter priesthood. Yes, I still want a man, but when constantly communing with the Father I won’t’ experience loneliness or emptiness when I don’t have one. #NoSingleWoes #NoMaryJBlidgeBlues
It’ s hard in these single streets, but be encouraged! The Father loves you! Let that truth give you continued joy and happiness.
“But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.” John 3:16-17